Over 2/3 of Oregonians
believe that same-sex couples
should have their relationships
legally recognized by the state.
Keith & Antoinette Edwards Proud Parents
Portland, Oregon
Parents of an adult gay son,
Keith and Antoinette Edwards
are champions of equality. "Above
all, equality reminds
us of our common humanity," says Antoinette.
Keith adds, "It means
to be respected and treated
as an equal - and to treat
people with respect."
Keith is
well-acquainted with
gay rights issues: in addition
to his son, Keith had a gay
father. He says his race and
his family are the big motivators
for him to fight for equality.
"I am still appalled that people
choose to treat people differently
and unequally because of inherent
differences," he
says.
Antoinette says her motivation
comes in part from a need to
give back to the ancestors
who supported her when she
was growing up in the segregated
South. "I always
knew I was loved and that made
all the difference. From an
early age I knew I didn't have
to be what other people defined
me to be."
"Our son is treated differently by
two birthrights of which he
had no choosing, being Black
and being gay," says
Keith. According to Antoinette,
she and Keith countered any
negative messages their son
might receive with love and
support. "We
told him, 'You're supposed
to be here. It's your destiny.'"
The
Edwards were out pounding the
streets during the No on 36
campaign. While they did have
a few doors slammed in their
faces in African-American neighborhoods,
Antoinette said the hardest
part was witnessing someone
make homophobic remarks toward
one of the young lesbian women
with whom they were canvassing. "I couldn't protect her," says
Antoinette.
Keith cites another instance
of homophobia in the community
that left an impression on
him. "A
pastor of a large Black church
discriminated against my friend
and her life partner, who were
devoted, tithe-paying church
members. When my friend's partner
died, the pastor refused to
allow the funeral to be held
at the church they had so faithfully
supported."
"There is still so much work to
do," acknowledges Antoinette,
who helped start a group for gay
and questioning kids at Jefferson
High School in Portland. "We're
proud to be a small part of
doing that work."